Several years ago I received an email from a pastor who was going through some difficult times. He had battled a life-threatening illness, experienced troubling problems at his church, and yet worst of all, his daughter had begun having serious doubts about the truth of the Christian faith. This perfect storm of suffering all struck at once.

What follows is a summary of my response to the pastor. (Names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.) The central focus of my letter addresses the problem of doubt—a common issue that many Christians struggle with at some point in their lives. This response can also help you or assist you in helping other people who are wrestling with doubts about their faith.

A Letter to a Pastor

Thank you for contacting me, Pastor. The content of your email really touched me. I have a daughter who is the same age as your daughter Susan.

Let me begin by addressing the topic of doubt.

Apologist Gary Habermas in his excellent book Dealing with Doubt1 identifies three types of doubt:

1. Factual Doubt: Doubt about the factual underpinnings of Christianity
2. Emotional Doubt: Doubt stemming from subjective, psychological issues (anxiety, depression, hurt, anger)
3. Volitional Doubt: Doubt that arises from a weak or immature faith

From reading your email, I am inferring that your daughter’s struggle with unbelief may reflect all three types of doubt.

Reviewing solid apologetics material that addresses the truth of the faith can help with factual doubt. Christian thinkers Tim Keller and Lee Strobel have several apologetics books that can be helpful concerning the facts of Christianity. But since science has played a role in your daughter coming to doubt God, you may want to review some of the science-apologetics materials that we have here at Reasons to Believe. Biochemist Fuz Rana’s The Cell’s Design and Hugh Ross’s Why the Universe Is the Way It Is are great resources in demonstrating how the latest scientific discoveries affirm the Christian faith.

Regarding emotional doubt, it is good that your daughter is willing to read with you. That bonding may allow her to open up and discuss her hurts over the trials and disappointments your family experienced in the last few years. You might consider sharing with her that Jesus Christ in his Incarnation suffered both for us (on the cross) and with us (in life’s disappointments). Jesus’s family thought he was psychologically imbalanced (Mark 3:21). His disciples let him down when he needed their help the most when he was preparing to confront crucifixion (Luke 22:39-46). You might also share with her that Christians are forgiven sinners and that the brokenness of human beings runs deep—even in the church, unfortunately.

Now with volitional doubt it is also important to remember that Susan is at that critical stage of life where she is becoming a woman. Transitioning from adolescence to adulthood is often difficult. It’s possible that your daughter’s faith may be at a low ebb. But the love you and your wife are giving her is in itself a type of apologetic for Christianity. No other religion or worldview has agape (a love that doesn’t ask what’s in it for me).

I’m sorry you and your family have been hit with such sustained suffering. I pray our Lord will meet all of your needs. And I’m thankful you are well on the road to recovery from your health crisis.

Some ten years ago I also experienced a life-threatening illness. I write about it in my book A World of Difference. I hope you might consider reading that book with your daughter because I talk about how I dealt with pain and doubt.

Please extend my best regards to your daughter.

Reflections: Your Turn Is all doubt bad? Does doubt arise from our finitude or fallenness? Or both? Visit Reflections on WordPress to comment with your response.

Resources

  1. Gary Habermas has made his book Dealing with Doubt available for free here: http://www.garyhabermas.com/books/dealing_with_doubt/dealing_with_doubt.htm.

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About The Author

Kenneth R. Samples

I believe deeply that "all truth is God’s truth." That historic affirmation means that when we discover and grasp truth in the world and in life we move closer to its divine Author. This approach relies on the Christian idea of God’s two revelatory books - the metaphorical book of nature and the literal book of Scripture. As an RTB scholar I have a great passion to help people understand and see the truth and relevance of Christianity's truth-claims. My writings and lectures at RTB focus on showing how the great doctrinal truths of the faith (the Trinity, the Incarnation, the Atonement, creation ex nihilo, salvation by grace, etc.) are uniquely compatible with reason. This approach reflects the historic Christian apologetics statement - "faith seeking understanding." I work to help myself and others fulfill Peter's words in 2 Peter 3:18: "But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen." As an RTB scholar I have a great passion to help people understand and see the truth and relevance of Christianity's truth-claims. • Biography • Resources • Upcoming Events • Promotional Items Kenneth Richard Samples began voraciously studying Christian philosophy and theology when his thirst for purpose found relief in the Bible. He earned his undergraduate degree in philosophy and social science from Concordia University and his MA in theological studies from Talbot School of Theology. For seven years, Kenneth worked as Senior Research Consultant and Correspondence Editor at the Christian Research Institute (CRI) and regularly cohosted the popular call-in radio program, The Bible Answer Man, with Dr. Walter Martin. As a youth, Kenneth wrestled with "unsettling feelings of meaninglessness and boredom," driving him to seek answers to life's big questions. An encounter with Christian philosophy in Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis led Kenneth to examine the New Testament and "finally believe that Jesus Christ is the divine Son of God, the Lord and Savior of the world." From then on, he pursued an intellectually satisfying faith. Today, as senior research scholar at Reasons to Believe (RTB), Kenneth uses what he's learned to help others find the answers to life's questions. He encourages believers to develop a logically defensible faith and challenges skeptics to engage Christianity at a philosophical level. He is the author of Without a Doubt and A World of Difference, and has contributed to numerous other books, including: Lights in the Sky and Little Green Men, The Cult of the Virgin, and Prophets of the Apocalypse. He has written articles for Christianity Today and The Christian Research Journal, and regularly participates in RTB's podcasts, including Straight Thinking, a podcast dedicated to encouraging Christians to utilize sound reasoning in their apologetics. He also writes for the ministry's daily blog, Today’s New Reason to Believe. An avid speaker and debater, Kenneth has appeared on numerous radio programs such as Voice America Radio, Newsmakers, The Frank Pastore Show, Stand to Reason, White Horse Inn, Talk New York, and Issues Etc., as well as participated in debates and dialogues on topics relating to Christian doctrine and apologetics. He currently lectures for the Master of Arts program in Christian Apologetics at Biola University. Kenneth also teaches adult classes at Christ Reformed Church in Southern California. Over the years Kenneth has held memberships in the American Philosophical Association, the Evangelical Philosophical Society, the Evangelical Theological Society, and the Evangelical Press Association. The son of a decorated World War II veteran, Kenneth is an enthusiastic student of American history, particularly the Civil War and WWII. His favorite Christian thinkers include Athanasius, Augustine, Pascal, and C. S. Lewis. He greatly enjoys the music of the Beatles and is a die-hard Los Angeles Lakers fan. Kenneth lives in Southern California with his wife, Joan, and their three children.



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