What does the Word of God say to a believing wife who has an unbelieving husband? And by implication, what does the Scripture say to a believing spouse who is married to an unbelieving spouse?

Actions speak louder than words. “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives” (1 Peter 3:1).

Your spouse’s conversion is the work of God. And it is going to happen in God’s timing, not yours. Pray for them. Exercise love toward them, and watch God work. Don’t nag your spouse about Christ. Just be a witness. Demonstrate the character of Christ.

First Peter 3:2-5 tells wives that inner beauty is the beauty of godly character. When the focus of a woman’s life is on worshiping and glorifying God, the inner beauty of her character shines through. In verse 4, Peter speaks of “the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.” This unfading beauty does not flow from a critical spirit. It is not found in pushy, aggressive, or assertive behavior. Rather, the beauty of inner character speaks words of encouragement and wisdom. This unfading beauty speaks words of wise counsel when the need arises. When a woman exudes inner beauty, she doesn’t have to use words to witness to her unbelieving spouse.

In order for a believing spouse to walk free of fear (see 1 Peter 3:6), that spouse must submit to God first and foremost. This submission will free a believing wife to submit to her husband and a believing husband to love his wife.

Prayer: God, thank You that my spouse’s salvation is not up to me. Help my life to be a demonstration of You in my marriage. I pray in the name of Jesus. Amen.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” (1 Peter 3:3-4).

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About The Author

Dr. Michael Youssef, Ph.D.

Even before he was born, it is clear that God had a vision for Michael Youssef. His mother was in poor health when she became pregnant with Michael, and because his life was in danger at the time of birth, the doctor recommended terminating the pregnancy. An abortion was scheduled. But God intervened and sent the family pastor to reassure them that God was involved in this pregnancy. He told them not to be afraid and that the child would be "born to serve the Lord." Michael's parents accepted the pastor's message as a message from God and obeyed. His mother gave birth, and lived to see him give his life to the Lord at the age of sixteen.


Believing that God had called him out of Egypt, Michael sought an exit visa in a time in which no university student was allowed to have a passport or leave the country. God intervened again, and miraculously he managed to acquire a visa. He immigrated to Australia, where he studied at Moore Theological College in Sydney, was ordained as a pastor, and met Elizabeth who became his wife.


The Youssefs came to America in 1977, and in 1978 Michael received a master's degree in theology at Fuller Theological Seminary in California. Then he earned a doctorate in social anthropology at Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia. Michael served nearly ten years in the Haggai Institute, traveling around the world more than 32 times, teaching courses in evangelism and leadership. He rose to the position of Managing Director at the age of 31 years. The family settled in Atlanta, and in 1984, Michael became a citizen of the United States, making his dream of many years come true.


He founded The Church of The Apostles in 1987 with fewer than 40 adults with the mission of "Equipping the Saints and Searching for the Lost". The church has since grown to be a congregation of over 3,000 people today. This church has driven the international ministry of Leading the Way. While it is heard by millions at home and abroad, behind every message preached through radio waves, is the heart of a pastor, willing to nurture and care for these people. Clearly God has uniquely equipped Dr. Youssef to speak to a global audience. The path he has taken has given him an understanding and firm grasp of the Scriptures that transcend cultures. He preaches, teaches and calls with a sincere, based on the authority of the inerrant, inspired Word of God. With his personal knowledge of the Holy Land, its history and culture, Dr. Michael Youssef transmits life to listeners all over the world.



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